Is your partner in your space?
Four common behaviors that get in the way of healthy communication are:
- Criticism – Berating your partner’s personality or character verbally
- Contempt – Attacking your partner’s sense of self with the intent to insult or abuse
- Defensiveness – Victimizing yourself to ward off a perceived attack and reversing the blame
- Stonewalling – Withdrawing to avoid conflict and convey disapproval, distance and separation
Be aware of the annoyance you feel, ground your body and pull your energy out of their space. Contempt and defensive feelings come from the belief that there is something to defend. There is not. When you are in defense, you are at war.